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Finding Your Inner Self


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By Fadia Bint Ismail

It has definitely been a while since i have posted on my blog but alas here i am

I thought hard and long about what exactly i am going too write about and i think the best thing lately has been My journey and the road that it led me too finding my inner self.

Sometimes we are all distracted by the things of this Dunyah that we fail to realize our true purpose in life and that is too constantly seek the pleasure of Our Maker , Our Lord, Our One and only Allah (SWT)

So how did i get here…Well firstly having complete Yaqeen in Allah (SWT) and knowing that whatever is meant to reach me will reach me and whatever is not meant to reach me will never reach me. What is meant for you nobody can take it away if Allah (SWT) willed it for you.

It took me a long while to get to where I am today, struggles whether it be financially, emotionally, spiritually you name it we all face it so it should not be this embarrassing thing we do not speak about because trust me there are others out there that are facing the exact same thing as you or even worse. One thing i have learnt is that patience is the key to every thing and i remembered i had little too probably no patience. So how do you overcome this struggle?

Well secondly find things that will put your heart and mind at ease, whether it is reading a book, a hobby or some other therapeutic avenue that will help you in managing your inner self and allowing you to become more calming and patient.

My choice of therapy was painting and writing Islamic poetry i could channel all my feelings and even frustrations into it and Alhamdulilah i can actually say that doing that has brought tremendous value not only to my life but too others.

For me the biggest part of my Journey was knowing that i had so many people who cared for me, who loved me and encouraged me too keep on going and too have total Sabr (Patience)…..We definitely all need those types of people in our lives..You know the ones who constantly remind us of Allah (SWT).

My Journey has just begun……

All Praise is due to Allah Alone, and He is Sufficient for us All

 

 

 

Be InLove With Allah


 

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By Fadia Bint Ismail

Every Ramadan is different, the experiences, our mindset and basically most things. For me this Ramadan is one of the best, mentally, physically and emotionally. It has brought me more inner peace and contentment and changing truly how I look at life.

It is like a scholar once said if your Eemaan is sincere it turns into light and you can only truly have Eemaan if you try and change your bad habits.

I think the best part of Ramadan is that we are more in control of ourselves, we have a purpose that we are working toward  and creating a better connection with our creator.

We all struggle with our connection with our creator at times and even when we are praying everything around us seems to distract us, I can truly say it takes a lot to be able to truly find complete khushi and contentment in prayer…..but Allah(SWT) is so merciful he calls us back to him each and everyday.

I know that in Ramadan Shaytaan is tied up and we don’t have his whispers to sway us but the battle with our own nafs in this month is greater, what you do in this month is from yourself we cannot blame Shaytaan and even after Ramadan we cannot fully blame Shaytaan either,because he whispers to us but it is our own self that gives into that temptation and on the day of Qiyamah when you want to blame him, he will say “I only whispered to you”. Ultimately what I am trying to say is that for me this battle in this Holy Month of Ramadan has been a great reflection for myself and the path I would like to see myself on.

A few things I have learnt in this short time is that we need to fall completely inlove with Allah. Our main aim in our life should be to please our creator. We should allow our hearts and our minds to be fully controlled by Allah…I promise you by doing this you will be more happy and contented, I know that it is difficult and trust me I myself struggle with this because you think but what are you saying…shouldn’t I love my muslim brother or sister…no that is not what I am saying I mean be so Inlove with Allah that nothing can affect your heart and mind. Be so inlove with Allah that every battle every struggle you face doesn’t bring you to the brink of destruction and remember that Allah tests those he loves the most. 🙂 that to me already makes me love Allah even more.

Bottom line….this Ramadan the beauty of it I cannot explain and I hope my words can give you a sense of the way I feel…Happy…contented and focused

Fall inlove with Allah  everyday …..then tell me how you feel

A reminder to myself first and foremost 🙂

Wslm …Ramadan Kareem to one and all


 

 

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BY Fadia Bint Ismail

Book Written by : Dr Feryad A.Hussain

I recently read a very interesting book called Therapy from the Quran and Ahadith. Made me realize that the Quran and Hadith has tremendous amounts of guidance to help each and everyone one of us though our difficulties and through our good times.

I think we all have looked for ways to help us cope with the many things that hold us down, whether it be our job, family, friends loved ones etc and trust me when i say when you fall completely inlove with the Quran it is a source of therapy and guidance to help us in our lives Inshallah.

So what is the book about, firstly many of us probably see a therapist or a psychologist etc but sometimes they are helpful and sometimes they are not, what i have realized is that the words of the Quran are so deep that when we read it, it is as if Allah is speaking directly to us…Now when you go to a therapist they do not heal the underlying factor but basically they only state the obvious.

This is where this book comes in. The author uses verses from the Quran and Hadith to illustrate various situations in our lives for example

  1. Being Realistic
  2. Divine Decree – something we all do not fully understand nor accept
  3. Forgiveness
  4. Helpful role models

and the list goes on, so you have to read it to find out for yourself..however i will share things from the book that stood out for me Inshallah

” Positive thinking breeds inner peace and effects our behaviour”

” All behaviour is an active choice” The Prophet (SAW) said virtue is a kind nature and vice is what festers in your heart and that which you detest for anyone to know”

“Allah (SWT) tells us that one of the first people to be sent to the hell fire will be the on who gave in charity only to be seen by others”

“And if Allah touches you with harm, none can remove it but He and if He touches you with good, then He is able to do all things (Sr Al Anam)

“the lightning almost snatches away their sight, whenever it flashes for them, they walk therein and when darkness covers them they stand still. And if Allah willed He could have taken away their hearing and their sight. Certainly Allah has power over all things” (Sr Al Baqarah)

“It is easy to feel overpowered by negative behaviours of other people and to want to give up forgetting the fact that such schemes are only as powerful as the individuals response to them”

“The power of prayer can never be underestimated, be it in the form of five daily prayers of Islam or supplications to the Creator (SWT)”

I will leave it at that…i feel that this book is a character building tool and it should  be read more than once to truly absorb what the author is trying to say.

So please purchase this book.

May it be a means of relief for those who are silently suffering …Inshallah

 

 


By Fadia Bint Ismail

I could say a million things but even that wouldn’t be enough.

I am drowning in my sorrow.

The words you say pierce my heart.

You were suppose to be here for me…..

What can I say next ? but to go on my knees prostrating and making Dua for you.

Allah’s name is constantly on my lips , glorifying HIS names begging him to forgive you, to have mercy on you.

I cannot bear to see you fall, the darkness has consumed you …is there a way out for you

Only Allah will know…I hope you can be saved

The ABC …of Hijaab


By Fadia Bint Ismail

As simple as it may seem many of us women struggle with the choice of whether or not too wear Hijaab. Although it is compulsory to wear it the struggle is still real.

We all make the choice in some part of our life whether from a young age or when we are older. I myself went through what many of you may be facing.

Growing up I always knew that Hijaab was something I had to wear and having worn hijab all my life…going from wearing Hijaab with T-shirts, tight jeans not completely covered but still wearing it either half on my head, half off or around my neck I knew this was a must..it was like the old people use to say “what if you die in the road who is going to know that you are Muslim” My Grandmother (May Allah grant her a high place in Jannah Inshallah) use to be super strict when it came too wearing Hijaab and I use to be in my rebellious phase where I would not understand the importance of it and when I look back at the things she taught me and said too me I realize that valuable information was of great importance and some how made me who I am today.

And so many years ago I took the plunge and changed my dress completely and started wearing Hijaab full time. It had its challenges especially in summer and people use to come up too me and ask..” Are you not getting hot” I would smile and say I am use too it already” I feel covering yourself up is a protection against the sun..and I for one dislike the sun a lot (chuckles)….

Many women I see are wearing beautiful Hijaab’s MashAllah, some have Turbans or simple Hijaab’s, whatever works for you right now..use that and eventually you will get to that stage and point in your life with Allah’s guidance InshAllah.

Whenever I see someone who is not wearing Hijaab I do not judge them because I know I went through the same thing but I will say that with growth and age comes understanding and wisdom, and when you understand our glorious Deen more and more you realize that many things in life are easier too do and implement.

Islam was not created too make our lives difficult but too help us live more peacefully and helping us have a better way of life.

So my advice is ..if you are having trouble getting yourself too wear Hijaab, take it in stages but don’t ever disregard what is compulsory for us.

More topics on Hijaab will follow Inshallah.

keep calm and wear Hijaab 🙂

 

 


Reclaim your heart

By Yasmin Mogahed

imagesI recently read a very inspiring book called Reclaim your heart.

In my personal experience it has truly uplifted me and has made me look at life completely different.

I know that some of us feel a sense of attachment to certain things in our lives such as possessions; whether it is material possessions or emotional possessions such as a person we are involved with.

If you have ever faced this in your life where you feel like you have lost all hope, your mind and emotions seem out of control then I suggest you get yourself a copy of this book it will definitely change your life.

Before I share some insights of the book I would like to personally thank the Author Sister Yasmin Mogahed for inspiring me, you are truly a special Muslimah and role model and hope to read more inspiring books written by you Inshallah.

In her book sister Yasmin speaks about false attachments and how this could ultimately break us.

“Until we can break these false attachments we cannot empty the vessel of our heart. And if we do not empty that vessel we cannot truly fill it with Allah.

A Gift in our hand or in our Hearts

There are two places to hold something, in the hand or in the heart.

Where do we hold a gift? A gift is not held in the heart it is held in the hand so if we lose that gift it won’t create a pain in our heart. When I read these words I thought about emotional attachments which when I lost them I felt extremely hurt and that was because I held those things in my heart and not my hand. This pain was when I knew that what I just lost was an attachment.

When we keep the gift in our heart and Allah in our hand we will definitely feel extreme pain when it is taken away.

How would you feel if you lost Allah? Would you still feel alive? Our false dependencies on his gifts have deceived us so when we lose Allah we still think we are alive…in fact we are not. Whatever lives in our hearts controls us.

Detachments from the world

Complete peace is not something of a moment it is a state of eternal.

Detachment is when the Dunyah remains in our hand, not in our heart. As Ali (ra) expressed, “Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

Imprisonment

Ibn Taymiyyah (ra) said “The one who is truly imprisoned is the one whose heart is imprisoned from Allah and the captivated one is the one whose desires enslaved him”

If a person or something in our life is our reason for living then something is totally wrong. If something finite temporary and fading becomes the centre of our life the reason for existing we will surely break. Imprisonment is the result putting anything where only Allah should be in our hearts.

Furthermore if Allah blesses us with someone that we love, we forget that Allah is the source of that blessing and we begin to love that person as we should love Allah.

Seeking perfection

 

Perfection cannot be found in the material world it can only be found in Allah.

This means you will love what he loves and not love what he does not love. And when you do love you will give to the creation not for what you can get in return from them.

And we should never love something other than Allah in such a way that it would be impossible to continue life without it. This type of love is not love but actually worship and it causes nothing but pain.

The moment you or I allow anything other than our creator to define our success, our failure, our happiness, or our worth we have entered into a silent but destructive form of slavery

Reclaim your heart

By Yasmin Mogahed

I recently read a very inspiring book called Reclaim your heart.

In my personal experience it has truly uplifted me and has made me look at life completely different.

I know that some of us feel a sense of attachment to certain things in our lives such as possessions; whether it is material possessions or emotional possessions such as a person we are involved with.

If you have ever faced this in your life where you feel like you have lost all hope, your mind and emotions seem out of control then I suggest you get yourself a copy of this book it will definitely change your life.

Before I share some insights of the book I would like to personally thank the Author Sister Yasmin Mogahed for inspiring me, you are truly a special Muslimah and role model and hope to read more inspiring books written by you Inshallah.

In her book sister Yasmin speaks about false attachments and how this could ultimately break us.

“Until we can break these false attachments we cannot empty the vessel of our heart. And if we do not empty that vessel we cannot truly fill it with Allah.

A Gift in our hand or in our Hearts

There are two places to hold something, in the hand or in the heart.

Where do we hold a gift? A gift is not held in the heart it is held in the hand so if we lose that gift it won’t create a pain in our heart. When I read these words I thought about emotional attachments which when I lost them I felt extremely hurt and that was because I held those things in my heart and not my hand. This pain was when I knew that what I just lost was an attachment.

When we keep the gift in our heart and Allah in our hand we will definitely feel extreme pain when it is taken away.

How would you feel if you lost Allah? Would you still feel alive? Our false dependencies on his gifts have deceived us so when we lose Allah we still think we are alive…in fact we are not. Whatever lives in our hearts controls us.

Detachments from the world

Complete peace is not something of a moment it is a state of eternal.

Detachment is when the Dunyah remains in our hand, not in our heart. As Ali (ra) expressed, “Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

Imprisonment

Ibn Taymiyyah (ra) said “The one who is truly imprisoned is the one whose heart is imprisoned from Allah and the captivated one is the one whose desires enslaved him”

If a person or something in our life is our reason for living then something is totally wrong. If something finite temporary and fading becomes the centre of our life the reason for existing we will surely break. Imprisonment is the result putting anything where only Allah should be in our hearts.

Furthermore if Allah blesses us with someone that we love, we forget that Allah is the source of that blessing and we begin to love that person as we should love Allah.

Seeking perfection

Perfection cannot be found in the material world it can only be found in Allah.

This means you will love what he loves and not love what he does not love. And when you do love you will give to the creation not for what you can get in return from them.

And we should never love something other than Allah in such a way that it would be impossible to continue life without it. This type of love is not love but actually worship and it causes nothing but pain.

The moment you or I allow anything other than our creator to define our success, our failure, our happiness, or our worth we have entered into a silent but destructive form of slavery.

I give this book a 10 out of 10 a

I have returned


Hi all my readers and fellow bloggers

Its been a while since I’ve posted anything on my blog.
I am finally back . during my time away I have ventured out through cape town Alhamdulilah having my family with me has been a blessing.
First and foremost I should say shukr to Allah for giving me the immense blessings he has brought in my life.
When one door closes another door opens.
These words sore through my head daily. Making me realize each and everyday how little time we have on this Dunyah and how Allah will always provide for us even when we think things are unbearable.
We sit wondering why won’t my time just come not realising that even in ease Allah’s tests us.
Even in difficulty he tests us only to make us stronger to rely solely on him.
Purifying us and creating us into better Muslims
Alhamdulilah….have a wonderful day everyone.

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My Inner Self


My Inner Self, Front Page

This is the cover of my poetry book which will be available for purchase soon Inshallah

Ramadan Stories Request


Asalaamualaikum to all my bloggers, followers and readers

As the blessed month of Ramadan approaches us may we all take heed to renew and strengthen ourselves spiritually and mentally Inshallah. May this month be a means of purification from our own sins and misdeeds towards others. Ameen.

As a humble request from all my bloggers, followers and readers i would like to encourage and request that each one could perhaps send me an inspirational story or experience of your upcoming Ramadan.

Where you are from?

How many hours you will be fasting?

What changes you will be making and so forth?

You many write about anything you feel but strictly keep it about Ramadan Inshallah.

I will then read each story and will publish the best one on my blog and other social media with your name or annoymously which ever you prefer.

Please send your stories to:

fadia.abrahams@gmail.com

I look forward to reading all your wonderful stories.

RAMADAN MUBARAK.

 

About ME


My Name is Fadia, firstly i am a Muslimah Hijabi girl that is my identity. Talkative, creative and challenging. My moto for the day- Live each day as it comes, if you put in efforts in striving toward goodness, Allah (SWT) will make a way for you. Love- love is rare but the rarest love of all is when your heart and soul is immersed in the love for Allah(SWT).

What can i say, My life is Islam, My life is Allah and his messenger (SAW).

Chasing Paradise is about helping and teaching and inspiring others to follow in the correct path Inshallah. Chasing Paradise is for everyone who wants to sit and relax reading about great ideas, poetry, Hijabi tips, islam and taking part in charity all for the sake of Allah (SWT).

If your aim is to learn and to be inspired then you have come to the correct place. CHASING PARADISE GALZ.

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