Category: Self Development


Character VS Reputation


By Fadia Bint Ismail

 

Character is who you are and your reputation is what others think of you.

Sometimes we are so consumed with what others think of us that we change ourselves and our character to please them. Have you ever thought, that no matter what we do Allah already knows the condition in our hearts and he knows our intentions. He knows everything we do and will do.

“Allah will never change the condition of the people unless they change what is within themselves”

Your character is Who You Are. Your good deeds and your bad deeds. If you truly want to change then do it solely with the intention of pleasing Allah.

Reputation is what others think of you. How many times have people judged you and accused you even though you may seem good or may seem bad. Always remember this is their view, not Allah’s view of you. When you realize your true purpose and you discover who you really are then what others think will not matter at all.

There are numerous examples from the stories of the Prophets that will shed light on this, that will prove to you that what truly matters is character.

One perfect example is the story of Ayesha(ra) Nabi (SAW) wife. She was accused of committing a horrible sin. But because of her character, her patience and her Dua’s, Allah helped her and revealed the truth.

Use these stories as a reminder to yourself that Allah will come to your AID. If people conspire against you to harm you only Allah can help you.

This is a reminder first and foremost to myself.

Strive to better your character for the sake of Allah. Character plays a major part in our daily lives. Look at our Beloved Nabi (SAW), his character and his ways were perfect. Use the stories of the Prophets, The Sahaba’s and The Sahabiyat and you will never go wrong.

May Allah guide us and may we strive to better our characters for the sake of Him Alone.

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By Fadia Bint Ismail

What connection do we have? what do i mean by this? well there are many things that connects us to one another but we need to start thinking about what our connection to Allah (SWT), the Mighty, the Majestic is.

Think about this…you have your phone, your lap top, your car and all these fancy electronic gadgets that connects you to people. But what we can never compare those items with is our connection we have with Allah each time we prostrate towards him.

Your phone dies, your lap top battery dies, the power can shut off..but what have you actually lost? You have only lost your connection with creation. So what is more important?

Remember Allah has No battery life, No power cable your connection to him is everlasting. so ask yourself again what is more important to you?

Your connection to this Dunyah? or your connection to the Akhirah? both are vital because Allah created us with a purpose. He put us on this Dunyah so that we may worship Him and Him Alone. But what is important is where your heart is connected to.

Think about this next time you feel frustrated when your worldly items and possessions fail you..and trust me they will fail you that is for sure. Because you chose the temporary life of this Dunyah over having everlasting life in the Akhirah.

So what connection will you choose?

“Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain: the growth of it is pleasing to the tiller, but afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow, and then it becomes straw. But in the hereafter there is a severe torment for the disbelievers and there is forgiveness from Allah and [His] good pleasure for the believers who do good, whereas the life of this world is only a decieving enjoyment” [ Quran, 57:20]


Road repair! Televisions blaring! Radios playing, phones ringing, appliances beeping, traffic roaring, horns honking, commercials, mall music, elevator music… That’s the external noise.

Then there is shame, worrying about the bills, frustration over relationships, guilt, anger, resentment… That’s the internal noise.

There’s so much clamour in our lives, outside and inside, that we can’t hear our own hearts anymore. We can’t hear Allah’s guidance, or we don’t recognize it when we do.

We need to find moments of total silence to pray, make dua’, read Quran, contemplate Allah… We need periods of uninterrupted calm to get back in touch with our fitrah, that pure nature given to us by Allah. We need to confess everything to Allah, lay ourselves bare before him and beg forgiveness, then forgive ourselves for what we’ve done, and pardon others who have harmed us, so that we can get rid of the baggage of bitterness and anger.

We must open our eyes to the clear light of Allah’s huda (guidance), and have tranquillity in our hearts, and quiet in our minds, so we can recognize the guidance when it comes.

We cannot silence the modern world. But we can make personal changes. It’s okay to have periods of silence in our lives. We don’t constantly have to have our phones or MP3 players with us, or be listening to lectures… We don’t have to be doing something every moment of the day.

So many of us are afraid to be alone and silent because that’s when the disturbing thoughts come: resentment over the way someone treated us, regret over a lost love, shame over things we’ve done in the past, anxiety about the future. Believe me, I know exactly what that’s like.

It’s okay to feel those things. In fact we need to feel those things, to deal with them and confront them. When those feelings come we can turn to Allah and say, “Ya Allah, I have made mistakes, forgive me. I am lost, please guide me. I am worried, help me.” Let the tears come. Weep before Allah. Those tears are precious to Him. Allah, the Exalted, says:

“And they fall down on their faces weeping and it increases their humility.” (17:109)

Abu Umamah Sudaiy bin `Ajlan Al-Bahili (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said:

“Nothing is dearer to Allah than two drops and two marks: A drop of tears shed out of consciousness of Allah, and a drop of blood shed in Allah’s way. Regarding the two marks, they are: Marks left in the Cause of Allah and a mark left in observing one of the obligatory acts of worship of Allah, the Exalted.” [At-Tirmidhi].

And if tears do not come, that’s okay too. As long as you are honest with yourself and with Allah, and turn to Him with sincerity and humility, that’s what matters.

Find a place that is your special place, a refuge where you can be alone to pray, recite Quran, do Zikr, meditate and think. Amid the chaos and noise of modern life, take time to be alone with your Lord.

For me that place is in my bedroom with the door closed and the lights dimmed, late at night when everyone is asleep. I sit on the floor on a musalla and confess everything to Allah. But I also want to find an outside refuge, someplace in nature.

Do you already have a special place like that? If you don’t, then your mission is to find such a place, Insha’Allah.

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