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The ABC …of Hijaab


By Fadia Bint Ismail

As simple as it may seem many of us women struggle with the choice of whether or not too wear Hijaab. Although it is compulsory to wear it the struggle is still real.

We all make the choice in some part of our life whether from a young age or when we are older. I myself went through what many of you may be facing.

Growing up I always knew that Hijaab was something I had to wear and having worn hijab all my life…going from wearing Hijaab with T-shirts, tight jeans not completely covered but still wearing it either half on my head, half off or around my neck I knew this was a must..it was like the old people use to say “what if you die in the road who is going to know that you are Muslim” My Grandmother (May Allah grant her a high place in Jannah Inshallah) use to be super strict when it came too wearing Hijaab and I use to be in my rebellious phase where I would not understand the importance of it and when I look back at the things she taught me and said too me I realize that valuable information was of great importance and some how made me who I am today.

And so many years ago I took the plunge and changed my dress completely and started wearing Hijaab full time. It had its challenges especially in summer and people use to come up too me and ask..” Are you not getting hot” I would smile and say I am use too it already” I feel covering yourself up is a protection against the sun..and I for one dislike the sun a lot (chuckles)….

Many women I see are wearing beautiful Hijaab’s MashAllah, some have Turbans or simple Hijaab’s, whatever works for you right now..use that and eventually you will get to that stage and point in your life with Allah’s guidance InshAllah.

Whenever I see someone who is not wearing Hijaab I do not judge them because I know I went through the same thing but I will say that with growth and age comes understanding and wisdom, and when you understand our glorious Deen more and more you realize that many things in life are easier too do and implement.

Islam was not created too make our lives difficult but too help us live more peacefully and helping us have a better way of life.

So my advice is ..if you are having trouble getting yourself too wear Hijaab, take it in stages but don’t ever disregard what is compulsory for us.

More topics on Hijaab will follow Inshallah.

keep calm and wear Hijaab 🙂

 

 


By Fadia Bint Ismail

Many times we sometimes forget the importance of our duty toward our parents and the immense amount of respect we should have toward them. No matter if we like to admit it or not we are all guilty of causing some anger in our parents with our behavior and our manner of speaking.

In today’s culture we have adopted the “You cannot tell me what to do” attitude but if we only but knew the amount of weight our beloved Nabi Muhammad (SAW) placed on our parents with regards to respect and duty we would be ashamed of ourselves.

I am not about to preach about how perfect my relationship is with my own parents because nothing is perfect but when you are a child and you grow up your character and behavior either takes a turn for the good or bad. It is up too you whether or not you are mature enough to understand the responsibilities we have toward our parents whether we are a son or a daughter we all have the same duty.

I cannot say that I have never displeased my parents because I know many times they have been very unhappy, however no matter how angry they were they always loved me and took care of me.

And this is what we do not understand the amount of sacrifice, anguish and worry that we as kids put our parents through. You know when we will realize it…..when we have our own kids, but seriously should this be the deciding factor that only once we experience their pain and sacrifice then our mind will finally switch on and “Oh now I realize what my parents went through” it may be we only realize it once they are no longer on this Dunyah….

And so I share the sayings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) about how we should treat our parents…..so next time your disrespectful remember these words…

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW)says Beware, abstain from angering the parents, the fragrance of paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off family ties with relatives will not be able to smell it.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) says “One who displeases the parents it is as if he has displeased Allah. The one who hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah.

The prophet Muhammad (SAW) stated “Allah will not speak to those who disobeyed their parents on the day of judgment, the one who is blessed with parents but does not fulfill their rights will not be forgiven by Allah.
Accursed is the one who beats their parents and their SALAAH will not be accepted”

 

Reminder foremost to myself..May Allah grant us all understanding Inshallah

Mending what is Broken


By Fadia Bint Ismail

“From the perfection of Allah’s Ihsan is that he allows his slave to taste the bitterness of the break before the sweetness of the mend. He does not break his believing slave, except to mend him. And he does not withhold from him, Except to give him, And he does not test him (with Hardship) except to cure him” Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah

When I read this Quote and at the moment when I read this I was going through a hard time with choices and in general my entire life.

If we have ever felt as though we can no longer go on, when life seems utterly challenging and we say to ourselves, ” You know what I just want to give up” .

I am sure we have all felt this way and so I shared this quote as a means to help those very people, including myself to help realize that when we feel like we are broken down into tiny little pieces it is Allah’s mercy upon us, so the stronger our faith is the harder the tests will be.

We can go on and on about challenges, hardships and how Allah puts us through difficult to help us and no burden will be placed upon us that we cannot bear, but I think the reason so many of us fail to realize the true nature of our struggle and the value of Allah’s mercy is because we do not understand why we believe in Allah and this is the question you should ask yourself, why did Allah create me ? and What is my relationship with Allah?

So ask yourself those two questions…..

This is a reminder first and Foremost to myself

The Value of Success


By Fadia Bint Ismail

What is the True Value of Success ?

We all have many goals, desires and fantasies which I believe are always attainable it just depends on how we go about achieving success which will determine whether or not it is truly valuable and beneficial to our lives.

Sometimes we believe that we will study become rich or to become famous and that those successes fulfill us but the more we want the more unsatisfied we become, when this starts to happen then the true value of success is completely lost to us.

Well a little about myself…I strived to make sure that I worked hard where secular education was concerned I think after a period of time this goal became so vapid that I lost interest in the purpose of it and thus Allah lead me onto a different path I guess I can say there is a certain period in our lives that some how or the other we are lead onto a different path…you see this is a test from Allah and he gives us things that He feels is the best for us, and so I let go of my desire to work for the corporate world and my life had more balance. I think if I had to work immediately in that type of environment I would of suffered just as how they say to much of a good thing can destroy a person.

So to me the True Value of Success is having

  1. Balance in ones life

Balance in ones life means being able to achieve our goals but with the belief that everything in our lives has a purpose and that purpose is that Allah provides us with the ability to achieve our goals and to truly achieve the actual true value of success is only when we realize this fact.

We may be rich and famous but if our lives are so consumed only by what we need materially and we forget that All things come from our creator then that is not True Success.

We can all become successful but it is how we go about our daily lives, what our inner souls possess, what we feel our key purpose on this Dunyah is that will determine our Value of Success.

 

 

 

Ramadan Reflection Part 2


By Fadia Bint Ismail

I realize that Ramadan is gone for now but how can I have a reflection part 1 without following it with a final part 2.

I think looking back at the blessed month of Ramadan I can say that every month is different I may not have accomplished all the goals I set out for Ramadan and although I feel disappointed in myself I know that circumstances change, life changes daily and even a few small constant good deeds are better than doing to many things at once which are not constant.

I think this Ramadan was probably the most challenging because of the different environment I work in as apposed to where I use to work.

What made the challenges fruitful and completely worth it was having support from your colleagues who are not even Muslim but who respects your religion and found it in their heart to support you by even fasting with you for the entire month. They realized the beauty and benefits of fasting and to be able to inspire others to fast well I think that is an accomplishment which only Allah has provided.

My colleagues have expressed how fasting the month of Ramadan has changed them especially where consuming less food, being more aware of why we fast and what happens to our bodies when we fast. Asking questions as to what we do at night when we break our fast etc. So yes this Ramadan was different to any other Ramadan good challenges difficult challenges spiritually and mentally but Alhamdulillah through the grace and mercy of Allah (SWT) it turned out to be amazing.

I only Hope and Make Dua that I reach another Ramadan by Allahs will. Inshallah

Make your Ramadan a month to inspire others with your character and belief Inshallah.

Ramadan Reflection Part 1


By Fadia Bint Ismail

It has truly dawned upon me that Ramadan just started but now it is already ending

Does it not make you wonder how precious time really is ?

Do you not wonder how our life passes us by in a blink of an eye ?

Ramadan is a precious time where we can reflect and renew ourselves it is a time where we can truly see how much control our Naafs truly has on us.

I have written before about Ramadan and the ways in which one could change and the beauty of this month but i think every Ramadan is a different experience and i definately experienced alot thus far, there were good moments and moments of struggle.

It is now the last ten days of the Ramadan, time has really flown by so quickly i think the best way to evaluate your Ramadan thus far is to ask yourself what you did in the first ten days compared to what you have changed in the last ten days. Nothing is perfect and everyday will be a struggle, no Human being is perfect and everyone’s level of Eemaan changes. Sometimes you can find yourself on a high level of spiritually but then there are times when your levels are not so satisfactory but Allah challenges us only to help to remind us of his bounties and to be greatful each and everyday.

This is the essence of Ramadan remembering what you have good or bad Allah challenges us all whether we are rich or poor we all have to face the same tune one day Inshallah.

Well the blessed Month of Ramadan is not yet complete so i hope Inshallah to reach the end with the blessings of Allah (SWT).

 

 

 

Palestine


By Fadia Bint Ismail

(A poem i wrote about Palestine)

The wailing cries of those displaced lives.

Why do they have to die? Children gather food, picking crumbs up off the ground.

Mothers crying having lost their children.

The burning, aching pain tearing them apart.

Smoke and fire disbursing. Buildings falling from every corner.

How will it be rebuilt? Hope and faith lost. Lives lost.

Children seeking shelter in the gutters. Trying to find shelter trying to hide from the bombs that are falling.

Amidst the rumble, dirt and bodies piling up.

People gather praying to Allah. Their faith strong no matter what has gone wrong.

Hoping to be released from this oppression.


Reclaim your heart

By Yasmin Mogahed

imagesI recently read a very inspiring book called Reclaim your heart.

In my personal experience it has truly uplifted me and has made me look at life completely different.

I know that some of us feel a sense of attachment to certain things in our lives such as possessions; whether it is material possessions or emotional possessions such as a person we are involved with.

If you have ever faced this in your life where you feel like you have lost all hope, your mind and emotions seem out of control then I suggest you get yourself a copy of this book it will definitely change your life.

Before I share some insights of the book I would like to personally thank the Author Sister Yasmin Mogahed for inspiring me, you are truly a special Muslimah and role model and hope to read more inspiring books written by you Inshallah.

In her book sister Yasmin speaks about false attachments and how this could ultimately break us.

“Until we can break these false attachments we cannot empty the vessel of our heart. And if we do not empty that vessel we cannot truly fill it with Allah.

A Gift in our hand or in our Hearts

There are two places to hold something, in the hand or in the heart.

Where do we hold a gift? A gift is not held in the heart it is held in the hand so if we lose that gift it won’t create a pain in our heart. When I read these words I thought about emotional attachments which when I lost them I felt extremely hurt and that was because I held those things in my heart and not my hand. This pain was when I knew that what I just lost was an attachment.

When we keep the gift in our heart and Allah in our hand we will definitely feel extreme pain when it is taken away.

How would you feel if you lost Allah? Would you still feel alive? Our false dependencies on his gifts have deceived us so when we lose Allah we still think we are alive…in fact we are not. Whatever lives in our hearts controls us.

Detachments from the world

Complete peace is not something of a moment it is a state of eternal.

Detachment is when the Dunyah remains in our hand, not in our heart. As Ali (ra) expressed, “Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

Imprisonment

Ibn Taymiyyah (ra) said “The one who is truly imprisoned is the one whose heart is imprisoned from Allah and the captivated one is the one whose desires enslaved him”

If a person or something in our life is our reason for living then something is totally wrong. If something finite temporary and fading becomes the centre of our life the reason for existing we will surely break. Imprisonment is the result putting anything where only Allah should be in our hearts.

Furthermore if Allah blesses us with someone that we love, we forget that Allah is the source of that blessing and we begin to love that person as we should love Allah.

Seeking perfection

 

Perfection cannot be found in the material world it can only be found in Allah.

This means you will love what he loves and not love what he does not love. And when you do love you will give to the creation not for what you can get in return from them.

And we should never love something other than Allah in such a way that it would be impossible to continue life without it. This type of love is not love but actually worship and it causes nothing but pain.

The moment you or I allow anything other than our creator to define our success, our failure, our happiness, or our worth we have entered into a silent but destructive form of slavery

Reclaim your heart

By Yasmin Mogahed

I recently read a very inspiring book called Reclaim your heart.

In my personal experience it has truly uplifted me and has made me look at life completely different.

I know that some of us feel a sense of attachment to certain things in our lives such as possessions; whether it is material possessions or emotional possessions such as a person we are involved with.

If you have ever faced this in your life where you feel like you have lost all hope, your mind and emotions seem out of control then I suggest you get yourself a copy of this book it will definitely change your life.

Before I share some insights of the book I would like to personally thank the Author Sister Yasmin Mogahed for inspiring me, you are truly a special Muslimah and role model and hope to read more inspiring books written by you Inshallah.

In her book sister Yasmin speaks about false attachments and how this could ultimately break us.

“Until we can break these false attachments we cannot empty the vessel of our heart. And if we do not empty that vessel we cannot truly fill it with Allah.

A Gift in our hand or in our Hearts

There are two places to hold something, in the hand or in the heart.

Where do we hold a gift? A gift is not held in the heart it is held in the hand so if we lose that gift it won’t create a pain in our heart. When I read these words I thought about emotional attachments which when I lost them I felt extremely hurt and that was because I held those things in my heart and not my hand. This pain was when I knew that what I just lost was an attachment.

When we keep the gift in our heart and Allah in our hand we will definitely feel extreme pain when it is taken away.

How would you feel if you lost Allah? Would you still feel alive? Our false dependencies on his gifts have deceived us so when we lose Allah we still think we are alive…in fact we are not. Whatever lives in our hearts controls us.

Detachments from the world

Complete peace is not something of a moment it is a state of eternal.

Detachment is when the Dunyah remains in our hand, not in our heart. As Ali (ra) expressed, “Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.

Imprisonment

Ibn Taymiyyah (ra) said “The one who is truly imprisoned is the one whose heart is imprisoned from Allah and the captivated one is the one whose desires enslaved him”

If a person or something in our life is our reason for living then something is totally wrong. If something finite temporary and fading becomes the centre of our life the reason for existing we will surely break. Imprisonment is the result putting anything where only Allah should be in our hearts.

Furthermore if Allah blesses us with someone that we love, we forget that Allah is the source of that blessing and we begin to love that person as we should love Allah.

Seeking perfection

Perfection cannot be found in the material world it can only be found in Allah.

This means you will love what he loves and not love what he does not love. And when you do love you will give to the creation not for what you can get in return from them.

And we should never love something other than Allah in such a way that it would be impossible to continue life without it. This type of love is not love but actually worship and it causes nothing but pain.

The moment you or I allow anything other than our creator to define our success, our failure, our happiness, or our worth we have entered into a silent but destructive form of slavery.

I give this book a 10 out of 10 a

I have returned


Hi all my readers and fellow bloggers

Its been a while since I’ve posted anything on my blog.
I am finally back . during my time away I have ventured out through cape town Alhamdulilah having my family with me has been a blessing.
First and foremost I should say shukr to Allah for giving me the immense blessings he has brought in my life.
When one door closes another door opens.
These words sore through my head daily. Making me realize each and everyday how little time we have on this Dunyah and how Allah will always provide for us even when we think things are unbearable.
We sit wondering why won’t my time just come not realising that even in ease Allah’s tests us.
Even in difficulty he tests us only to make us stronger to rely solely on him.
Purifying us and creating us into better Muslims
Alhamdulilah….have a wonderful day everyone.

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